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  • Writer's pictureSiegfried Howell

From Undervalued to Cherished: Keeping Relationships Healthy and Thriving

Appreciation is the super glue that fortifies healthy relationships. Bonds grow deeper when partners regularly acknowledge each other's value through gratitude and praise. But lack of validation breeds resentment. Feeling undervalued or taken for granted erodes the foundation of trust and intimacy. By making words and acts of appreciation for daily priorities, we can nurture relationships that uplift us mutually.

The Antidote to Feeling Undervalued

It's easy to assume our partner knows how much we cherish them without vocalizing it. But our assumptions leave them running on emotional fumes. Be proactive and intentional in expressing genuine appreciation daily through compliments, gratitude, and demonstrations of affection. Thank your partner for specific acts like a home-cooked meal or guilty pleasure movie night planned just for you. Show you notice the energy they pour into the relationship. Appreciation is the antidote to assumptions and prevents your partner from feeling undervalued.

Overlooked Contributions

Partners often feel dismissed or unrecognized when their unique contributions to the relationship go overlooked. For example, one partner may manage the social calendar while the other handles home repairs. Make a habit of acknowledging the little things your partner does to invest in the relationship. Notice their gifts and strengths that complement your own. Expressing gratitude validates their irreplaceable role, preventing bitterness over carrying an unequal load.

Countering Complacency Through Appreciation

Taking our loved ones for granted is easy, especially after years of stable partnership. We grow complacent and neglect expressions of affection that characterize the start of our relationship. But words and acts of appreciation are not just for courtship! Combat complacency through handwritten love notes, planning special dates, remembering anniversaries, acknowledging achievements, and voicing heartfelt praise. Rediscover why you feel lucky to have your partner. Appreciation conveys "I don't take you for granted" better than anything.

The Power of Positive Reinforcement

Like anyone, our partners crave praise, compliments, and positive feedback. Look for regular opportunities to reinforce and encourage your partner's wins, efforts, growth, and good deeds through celebratory high-fives, supportive words, or their love language. Cheering on each other gives us momentum to keep bettering ourselves. When done right, it motivates desired behaviors. Appreciation says, "I believe in you, and I'm your biggest fan!" Uplifting partners soar higher together.

In the busyness of life, it's easy to forget that everyone longs to be appreciated and validated by those they love. However, relationships only thrive when partners give frequent positive reinforcement and clarify how cherished the other is through gratitude. The rewards of appreciation are worth the effort. With intentionality and active reinforcement, any relationship can be transformed from undervalued to cherished.

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